Sometimes we search for where take forces on changes in life. Many people know the feeling when we know exactly how to act correctly, but for some reason we do not succeed. It seems to us that if we do this, this, and this, we will immediately become kings and become rich and happy. But we always something interferes…
What is the reason and what is stopping us?
The answer to this question is easier than it seems. The thing is that what we think is simple in words, not so simple in practice. Therefore, when we take the first tentative steps towards our dream, we are faced with the harsh truth of life. We understand that in reality everything is much more complicated than we imagined, but in words everything remains as simple.
Given example. Let's say a young man wants to find a girl. And thinks, what's there in the end, it is necessary to approach the girl, talk to her, invite to the cinema, to give flowers and you're done. In words it seems very simple and it seems that here it is-step by step instructions! But in fact, he faces a lot of difficulties: he can not overcome his fear, does not know what to talk about, does not know how to captivate, hesitates to say a compliment, take her hand, does not know what kind of movie she likes and so on. So when he has a real chance, he prefers to do nothing. And the words all seemed so simple... he feels that He lacks something, not the thing he just doesn't know how, don't have patterns of behavior.
The same thing happens in other spheres of life. A person thinks to start some business and thinks that everything is easy. And life is not so easy. Then the person makes a strange conclusion that since it is so easy, and he can not do it, then it means something is wrong with him. That he has no strength, no willpower, no intelligence, and so on.
What is to be done?
First of all, it is necessary to understand that everything seems easy only in words and from the words of other people. When a person says that something is very easy-it only means that it is easy for him, that he just very well mastered a lot of techniques that are already performed at the level of automatism. It is very difficult to learn to ride a bike, and once you learn, it seems that it is very easy
The second is to prepare for systematic work and a large number of attempts. What usually demotivates us is that we misjudge the amount of work we have to do and the amount of skills we will need to master. Therefore, it is much easier to prepare in advance that the work will be difficult and long, but that you will definitely complete it.
It's like running. When we think the distance is small, we want to run it as fast as possible. Imagine that you run a hundred meters and suddenly after a hundred meters you learn that this is a marathon race, and you have no strength left. What will you do?" Most likely you will quit, because you realize that you can not run at this pace 40 kilometers. Besides, you didn't agree to this. Another matter, that you began to to flee marathon, and proved sprint, but in any case you ran, albeit not so quickly. See the difference? In the second case, you in any case achieve results.
You need to understand that achieving success in any business is not a sprint, but a marathon. Experienced people understand that before they achieve a result, they will make a lot of mistakes and are prepared for such a turn of events. But they also know that whatever happens, if they keep trying, they will get results.
For this to work, you need to constantly keep some alluring goal in front of your inner eye. Something for which you are willing to endure all these hardships, but which is definitely achievable.Here we come to the next obstacle.
How to get such a goal?
Nobody can prepare you a ready recipe. But I can recommend a place where you can look for your target.
A lot of people have some project that they have long wanted to implement, but can not bring it to the end. Call it a dream. We plan this project for many years not daring to run it in life, believing that it is not ready or some not so. We are disappointed in him, and then our thoughts come back to him anyway. Try to find this project at home.
If you find such a dream, remember that the best way to kill a dream is to try to make it come true for money. It has to be something that you just want to appear in the world. Believe me, if you find such a thing and be able to invest in it free of charge, then you will have the excitement and energy. You will disappear laziness and apathy-and everything will turn into a game for you. Very exciting game.
This is the goal that will give you strength. And the man who has the strength, easily gets everything he needs.
The next thing I have to tell you. Consistency of effort is very important. Remember, this is a marathon. Stopping is like missing a heartbeat. One bar can be missed, two dangerous, and then you can die. Many projects die this way. And resurrecting a project is almost as difficult as creating it.