Each of our actions carries a certain state for us. And therefore, this is not at all “just an action”. This is a significant part of our life, which solves some issue.
1.
- What do you feel when you smoke?
- Feeling calm. It's like I'm falling into my world. Exactly the one that is mine. It’s calm there.
- Are you in a hurry to go out with a cigarette during the break to get into your world?
- Yes, there is tension at work, and when I smoke, I calm down.
- Try to describe your condition in images.
“It's like sailing a boat in a magical realm.” Quiet. Peacefully around.
2.
- When I smoke, I can concentrate. Around such a fuss usually. And so I can concentrate and at the same time calm my thoughts. I think well, clearly.
3.
“Now I understand that my life was hell, that's why I drank.” Too much piled on. The feeling was that the stove fell, and so you go with this stove. And only when I drink, I do not pay attention to it or do not feel. Sometimes he sat up to sleep for a couple of hours with a glass as if in oblivion and tried not to move, so as not to brush away this feeling of temporary relaxation from constant heaviness.
4.
- I’ll work out with the children, put them to bed, and rush, drop slippers, to the phone. Such a buzz. Where do I turn from? From a state of complete chaos and wild tension to dullness. For me it is rest, relaxation. I poke buttons, read nonsense and can not tear myself away.
5.
- After your question, the last time I began to think that for me every piece. You know, food is incredible happiness for me. All the fullness in life in her. Juiciness, taste - I can’t stop, I want to take every moment of happiness. When I began to notice how I feel when I eat, I suddenly realized that I could stretch these moments. I began to try to eat in small pieces in order to stretch the pleasure.
"Bad habits" appear for a reason. Behind every habit is the treasure we need.
Accordingly, any therapy of what gives us happiness and stress at the same time in terms of health is based on three pillars.
1) Understand what horror a person is running from, and solve a problem with this horror.
2) To fully understand what is the pleasure of a habit.
3) If you make the second point well, the third will automatically manifest itself - the unconscious will tell you how to get your treasure in another way.