Today I will tell you one way by which you can get answers in difficult moments of life for us. To do this, you need to look inside yourself. This might be the end of it, but the reader may resent such a brief evidence. Therefore, I will describe in detail how to get an answer from the depths of the soul.
How to look inside yourself?
I will explain by examples to make it easier. Suppose that a certain person cannot decide how to spend the evening. Or girl not can solve, far it do. Or a woman can't tell if she wants a divorce or not. Or a man can not decide what to do with his life, what to devote it to.
We are always fighting motives. Is it more profitable to do this or that? Say this or that?
Let me tell you a little secret. We already have a solution inside us. Somewhere deep down, we've already figured it out. You just have to listen to yourself. And believe that feeling. It does not fail.
We always instantly assess the situation, and we have a ready-made solution. Fight or run, scream or be silent, show yourself or hide. This feeling comes from our evolutionary experience, from the struggle that our ancestors went through. The soul speaks to us in the language of emotions. It is in the emotions and we must look for a solution.
In childhood, we live like this, but then we learn to slow down their instantaneous impulses. This is also an evolutionary acquisition, because emotions are an excellent biological mechanism, but they do not always adequately show themselves in actions in society. Evolution has come up with a fuse for such a case — the mind.
When people grow up, they learn to slow down their instant emotional reactions. But, unfortunately, many inhibited literally all reactions, not just unwanted. Undesirable ones are those that contradict social norms, including laws. It is wise to behave in such a way as not to incur the wrath of society, but if we block any of our impulses, we become indecisive victims.
Any emotion shows us biological expediency. What to fear, what to strive for, whom to love. Reason is needed to correct their behavior in accordance with society. Therefore, there is a simple check:
You want something and it is not against the laws of society — so we must act.
When we allow our reason to interfere with other things, we make far more wrong decisions. Silent, when it is necessary to give the face (in some cases it is necessary), we do what we do not belong to the soul, we go on about other people, when the soul says “No!"we live with people we don't want to live with. It's all a path to nowhere, a path to losing yourself.
When we go against our emotions, we lose the energy of life, the will to act, to change this world. Emotions are the compass that tells us what is right and what is wrong. Giving up the compass is crazy. The madness we've been taught.
"You need to restrain your emotions”" they tell us. But this is the wrong setting. Our reason must not oppose our feelings, but must guide them.
In order to answer any question of life, you need to listen to what the feelings say. If the mind finds something attractive, but the senses say " no!"then no. Especially need to listen to the sense of danger.
Do you know why fraudsters manage to deceive people? Because they too trust my mind that it's easy to cheat. The swindler will always explain to reason “ " Yes everything will be OK, trust me!”. Emotions are not fooled. Is there an oppressive feeling? Flee. We feel deception on a biological level.
It's the same with choice. When you choose something, listen to yourself. What do you feel? Fear, disgust, contempt, or delight? It's like another vision that can see the essence of things. Perhaps, only with anger is worth be cautious. You need it when you need to protect yourself.
How to find the answer?
Take the example of a man who doesn't know how to spend an evening. He has options: go to the movies, meet friends in a cafe, spend time with loved ones. To make the choice elementary. You need to evoke the image of each option and listen to your feelings about it. And choose the best feeling. It's that simple.
Or a woman contemplating divorce. You have to listen to your feelings. Does she want to live like this? Can climb into the head of all sorts of rational things, like: "What about the children?". Her emotions are all taken into account, if they believe that it is necessary to divorce, then this is really the best option. Or a woman can understand that feelings are against divorce. And this, too, need to listen to. And check at the same time, who convinced his mind to divorce?
There's no point in resisting your urges. It's like trying to stop water. If it's going somewhere, we can only hold it for a while.
If we do not want something, there is no point in it to climb, no matter how attractive it may seem. Even if something is really profitable, it will not work without feelings for it.
Trust yourself.