How to change your life? For most of us, our lives are filled with identical situations on a daily basis.
Getting up, getting to work or school, doing a certain limited set of operations there, getting back, hanging out with family, friends, then a certain pattern of rest, sleep. This is life.
This set of situations directly affects us. If you are honest enough to follow the flow of their own thoughts, then make sure that they are not so much and they are cyclical. I mean, we're always thinking the same thing.
Although each person has a set of these thoughts is individual and depends on a set of situations with which he faces. In fact, they are hardly more than 20, well-designed, a thousand times thought-changed thoughts. It can be unpleasant memories, thoughts about people around, favorite philosophical concept, obsessive song, fantasy, planning the future, the idea of self-perception, political views, etc.
But no matter what set of thoughts you have, it is important that they move in a circle and the more you think about them, the stronger they become, and the more you think about them.
Such a vicious circle. Most people call it thinking, but it's not. These are rather certain points which fix our attention on certain installations. It's what you call a personality.
Our psyche is very inert. The more you think about something, the more likely you are to think about it in the future. The more often you do something, the more likely you are to do it again.
That's why it's so hard for us to change. You need to defeat a thought that you've been pumping psychic energy into for years or decades. It's complicated.
But there is hope. Our response model does not operate in isolation from the situation. For example, a person smokes like a locomotive: at work, in the car, at home, everywhere.
A thousand times tried to throw but not worked. However, if he is taken out of his life and placed in a completely different environment, he will not want to smoke.
By the way it happens with submariners, they are in the submarine for 6 months do not smoke, and there they especially do not want it, because there it is almost impossible.
Six months later, they return to the usual urban environment and start Smoking. Why? It's been six months, right? Very simply, began to act old algorithms reaction. About this vicious habit I still write.
So it is with almost everything in our lives.
So how do we change?
There is a formula derived by the ancient Chinese:
"Sow thought, reap deed,
sow an act, reap a habit,
sow habit, reap character,
you sow character, you reap destiny.»
This wise saying tells us to choose carefully what you sow. Of course here implies not so much any singular thought, but thought constant, framed, for which more suited the term "idea."
If you have an idea that you think about every day, sooner or later it will result in an act. Many actions result in the habit of acting in a certain way in a particular situation.
This can lead to the fact that you start to act the same way in other situations, and this is "character". And "character" shapes our attitude to everything new in our lives. And that is fate.
But this only describes the mechanism. But what to do specifically, because we already have a bunch of habits, ideas, character? It can't be fixed that easily. It happens that you do not want to be your "present self", but you can not become another.
You must have a strong idea that you will be interested to keep in the sphere of your attention every day.
The idea is the most optimal way, it often works wonders. It's hard to find an idea that can really captivate us for many, many years. But you must look for her.
We'll have to change the environment, change the job, the people around us, maybe even the city. When a person changes from the inside, the world around him changes, and this is natural.
But it's very scary.Therefore, dear reader, I must tell you something. We have everything to change your life, do not even need to re-read the article, just remember the Chinese wisdom. But change is scary. Fear stops us.