Life is life. Every day we have to make choices and we can never be sure that our choice is right. It happens that our choices do not lead us exactly where we wanted. And then many begin to judge themselves for a mistake. That is regret.
Someone refuses a good job for some reason and then thinks “Oh, I shouldn't have done(a)!”. Others connect their lives with the wrong people, and then suffer bitterly. Still others commit a rash act. To what to enumerate? I think everyone has a long list of regrets.
We are not always able to predict the consequences of their actions and are not able to take into account all the factors. That's where the mistakes we make come from. It is possible to regret it, but it is much better to correct. And for this we need to analyze the causes of erroneous elections.
Anger and regret
A fairly common cause of error is a lack of thinking about the situation. This is often due to the fact that a person is under the influence of emotions. Perhaps the most important emotion that turns off our mind is anger.
Under the influence of anger, people often make pretty big mistakes. For example, break off relations in those situations when it was possible to agree. Commit aggressive acts of force and verbal nature.
But then, when their psyche is back to normal, they begin to realize that messed up wood. And begin to regret. Well, if this regret encourages a person to apologize or other correction of the situation. Then regret is a very constructive feeling.
However, quite often, to correct the situation prevents pride. Then regret becomes a destructive force. The motivational energy it contained creates a strong sense of anxiety. This feeling of anxiety destroys the mental balance, which makes the person even more irritable. A person in such a situation falls into a vicious circle.
How to avoid it? First of all, it is better to prevent such a situation. To do this, you should learn to instantly recognize the feeling of anger and never take any action under the influence of this emotion. It is much better to leave “ " boil over”, and only then take some action.
If we do not succeed and we feel regret, we must understand that regret can be constructive. It tells us that we need to correct the situation. This is what our soul tells us. Maybe you should listen to that voice.
Fear and regret
The second emotion that causes regret is fear. Often people under the influence of fear run from some situation from which they would not want to run.
For example, it may be an interview for some good position. Once a person has succumbed to fear, he begins to reproach himself for what he is not so.
There are exactly two ways out of this situation. The first option is to try to immediately correct the situation, for example, making an effort and go to the interview, if it is still possible. The second is to admit that you can't overcome your fear. Understand that you could not do anything, because fear is a serious obstacle. After that, you need to try to deal with your fear, try to correct your attitude, so as not to fall more into such situations.
Difficult choices and regret
In life, there are situations when we are faced with a difficult choice. For example, if you have three job offers. We do not know in advance where we will be better. In such a situation, it is easy to make a mistake. Many then regret the missed opportunities.
But this is completely unjustified! We always make the best choice based on the information we have. The problem of wrong choice is not that a person is wrong, but the lack of information.
How not to regret?
The only way not to feel regret is to stop being human. That isn't possible. But we can learn to listen to ourselves, to be able to recognize what our feelings are saying, to find out the reasons for our emotions.
The main thing to remember is that our lives are not influenced by some single mistakes or bad choices. Our life is influenced by our attitude to it, from which our behavior follows. What matters are not individual mistakes, but those that we make systematically.
Not a problem if you once yelled at someone. Often everything can be corrected. It is bad if a person does it all the time.
All we have to do is constantly analyze our behavior, accept our choices and the consequences that follow. This is life.