How to want to want? What a question. We all think that it would be nice to get rich, lose weight or pump up, learn something, for example, to speak in public. The problem arises when you have to start doing something. Often, many can not make the first step.
The main reasons for low motivation:
1. A lot of people can't make a choice.
We are surrounded by so many opportunities that it is quite difficult to choose where to apply forces.
One day we want to spend it on fitness, and then think that it is not very important in life, to be a Jock or slim. It is better to learn English. Then the English language is not so important. This can go on for a long time.
As a result, we scatter our forces in small piles, nowhere getting results and returns. This, in turn, demoralizes us to make any effort. In this case, people prefer to run away from the choice in any dependence.
If you decide something, then put yourself a period of six months that you will do it regularly.
2. We're taking on too much.
Suppose a man decided to start Jogging in the morning. Often these novice runners overestimate their strength, run too fast, resulting in their pulse accelerates to two hundred, begin to hurt his knees and terribly sore muscles. Naturally. that after that, we don't really want to run again. After all, it is perceived by us as some kind of torture, possibly life-threatening.
So it is with other areas of life, when due to over-effort, we can not enjoy the result of the work done. Without reinforcement, any motivation disappears instantly.
The first time you need to focus all your efforts not on the quality of what was done, but on regularity. It is not necessary to try to achieve excellent results at once, and it is necessary to concentrate on constancy of efforts.
3. People can't make the first move.
People begin to spend a lot of time on preparation, come up with some conditions that must be fulfilled before you start. As a result, the simplest case begins to seem somehow difficult and unaffordable.
For example, Jogging these conditions are as follows: to purchase sports uniforms and shoes, to wait for good weather, to find the perfect place to run... All this, of course, important, but for the first run will fit anything.
The only way to avoid all this is to start doing immediately as you have something in mind, without waiting for a combination of ideal conditions.
4. Not knowing how to start.
If with Jogging more or less everything is clear, then with more complex activities we can face a lot of problems because of ignorance. In a complex activity at the initial stage, we too often run into obstacles. It makes us think that we are good for nothing, and that there will always be such resistance.
At this stage, you should remember the rule: the more obstacles in the beginning, the less they will be in the future
5. Waiting for immediate results.
When expecting quick results, disappointment is almost inevitable. If we wait for quick results, we fall into a dangerous trap. When, together with the disappointment of deadlines, we are disappointed in the goal, because it all forms a single vision of our future.
When planning, try to inflate the terms twice. Quite often, this is not enough. The main thing to remember is that if you continue your efforts, the result is sure to be.
Conclusion
The hardest part is getting things moving. It's like pushing a car: it's hard to make it move, and then you start to help the force of inertia. Any business should be started smoothly. The biggest things in the world begin to be done quietly.
Encouragement — what is it? People think that it is necessary to encourage by all means something material, for example, money. This misconception. Often, in order to encourage, it is enough to notice.
Many people do not understand the simplest thing — everyone wants to get confirmation that they are good. Often, we do not notice the good that people do, taking it for granted. When we notice any disorder, we attack the person with all fury.
This attitude leads only to one thing, people stop doing good, because you never notice it. Why, if the effort doesn't pay off? In addition, they cease to love, because how can you love a person from whom there is a continuous negative?
At the same time, the person himself does not understand why this happens, because he believes that he is telling the truth. And as they say in one harmful misconception “ " the truth is not offended.”. Even as offended. There is no need to condemn the bad in people, they already know where they are wrong. The tactless truth is like salt in the wound. It is much better to support a person.
How to encourage?
The most correct way to encourage a person is to praise. This method costs nothing, but gives truly magnificent results. However, your praise should be modest enough not to sound like flattery, which can alienate a person. While that's unlikely enough, even flattery works fine.
It is best to praise those things in which man has overcome himself. Such praise especially warms a person's soul. But even ordinary things can sometimes be encouraged, just to keep a person inspired.
Timely praise can inspire a person, encourage him to a new activity. This is especially important with children. Praising a child for some of his initiative, for his first success, you can literally change his life.
For all this, you need to be attentive to the people around you. Notice the slightest progress, take nothing for granted, and appreciate what people do.
When interacting with people, you need to see them a little better than they really are. Do not be afraid to encourage just like that — for anything. Of course, do not do it too often, to turn into a system. But sometimes, undeserved encouragement can encourage a person to a new positive behavior.
It's all very simple. Inspire people around you with enthusiasm and life around you will become much happier and brighter. It is not necessary to punish and demand. It is much more effective to encourage and praise.