It is quite difficult to fit such a large and complex topic into the format of this blog. This can be done only by identifying the main directions.
When we talk about education, we must first determine what we mean by this. First of all, there is no “most correct” way of education, because it all depends on the specific situation and the tasks that will face the child when he grows up.
On this basis, the principles of education in today's family and a hundred years ago should be very different. The ways of education in different societies should also differ.
Education-is to teach the child ways of behavior in society, the transfer of rules and regulations in this society acting, as well as the formation of his actual skills and competencies.
It turns out that the parent faces a rather complex and even creative project that needs to be properly planned, before determining the goals and objectives.
Times change, and with them change and norms, which should conform to people. However, the basic principles remain unchanged. In my personal opinion, the task of education is to form a certain set of special skills in a child.
This is often difficult to do, because modern parents themselves do not own many of these internal programs. How can you teach a child self-discipline, for example, if you do not have it yourself?
Accordingly, before raising a child, a parent should look inside himself and ask “ " do I own what I want to invest in the child?
Principles of education
The first principle of education is to know exactly what you want to put in the head of the pupil.
If you can't articulate exactly what you want, it won't work.
In my personal opinion-it is at least four skills: self-discipline, the ability to communicate with people, the desire to be the best, the desire to do everything on the conscience. These skills are universal at all times and in all societies. How to instill them, we will talk further.
The second principle of education is to know what methods of influence you can apply.
Wise parents should constantly seek different methods of influence: study books, observe other parents, ask older relatives. If you have such tools, then you will not get lost and do stupid things and break into aggression when the child will not listen.
The third principle of education is attentiveness to success.
The parent should be constantly on the alert and ready to celebrate the success of the child. This affects not only the future self-esteem, but also the desire to continue to develop. When the child grows up and your opinion will not be so important for him, he will continue to celebrate the success of their own.
The fourth principle is to be an authority for the child.
If the child does not respect you, you will not be able to influence him. Children lose respect for their parents for two main reasons: when their parents lie to them and when their parents are not firm enough. An illustration of the first reason is when a parent tells a child to do something and does not observe it. An illustration of the second reason is the case when the parents rolled various whims, blackmail and so on.
The fifth principle — the position of the father and mother should be the same.
Parents should avoid the temptation to fawn over the child and seem better than the other parent. The word of any parent should be law, even if the other disagrees. Parents can discuss it later in private, and not undermine the authority of each other.
The sixth principle is the principle of consequences.
The child should know that inappropriate behavior has long-term consequences. Should not be such a, that child forgiven good mom or reinstated through couple of hours. Sanctions and restrictions should be felt for at least a week. Such consequences are thought-provoking.
The seventh principle-never raise a hand to the child and it is desirable not to raise his voice.
Respect is not the shouting or inappropriate behavior, a calm and solid force.
The eighth principle is to avoid familiarity.
Many people try to make friends with a child - this is a mistake. A parent is not a friend, but a wall that protects against external threats and keeps within limits. Task a parent not like, and help child become man. If you position the child as an equal, then why should he listen to you?
The child will be your equal when he takes care of himself.
The ninth principle, but the most important-show love.
The child must know that you love him. That you care about him.
You could write a bunch of points, but these are the main ones. It is also important to understand that every year you have to give the child part of the responsibility for his life, because you do not want him to be unable to live without diktat? Of course, it is not always possible to observe these principles in a hundred percent of cases, but it is necessary to strive for this. And it is important to remember that any rules should be limited to common sense, because the diversity of life can not cram in nine points.