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During study (and this is most of the year), children are squeezed into a rigid framework:
- A strict daily routine and the need to constantly do homework.
- A discipline in which even the child’s natural needs are suppressed (running, not sitting without moving at a desk) and natural emotional manifestations.
- Imposing what to do, since children must go through a strictly defined program (regardless of what is interesting for a particular child and what is not).
Of course, children get very tired of this total pressure. Such a psychological burden is not for every adult on the shoulder. Therefore, in order not to drive the child into depression, you should definitely not make a kind of “emergency training” (often also intensive) from the holidays in order to tighten the gap or provide a future breakthrough.
However, the holidays are a great time to develop or practice skills that will certainly come in handy in life.
1. He will learn independence
Only letting a person choose what is, what films to watch, with whom to be friends, what to be interested in and what to do, one can develop independence. It is impossible to educate her, dictating the best decisions. Recommendations - yes, prohibitions - no. Whoever has the final decision is independent.
Of course, everyone (and adults too) has boundaries of what is permitted. Nevertheless, for a child of any age, you can choose a sphere where it is he who can make a decision (and this is safe, although some danger is needed, but this is a separate issue).
It is during the holidays that there is every opportunity to give the child the opportunity to show independence in choosing what to do. What should parents do? To recommend and / or organize interesting affairs, to support and help, if necessary.
2. Will know the world, taking into account his interests
This happens as if by itself. What is interesting is what is remembered. If there is a desire to thoroughly understand this, then the result will certainly be.
Someone is interested in dinosaurs, someone in spaceships, someone wants to go to an interactive museum of technology or on a hike, and another wants to see an exhibition of photographs. Many children want and love to do something with their hands: sew a jacket for a doll or cook dinner, assemble a robot, write a program for a computer game or a fantastic novel about evil aliens. Why not satisfy the interest of your child, regardless of whether it is useful to him in the future or there are “more important” things?
By and large, thinking does not care what kind of “tasks” to train, from a textbook or from life. Yes, and in life we will do one thing. It is better if it is what you like, then the results and the satisfaction from work and life will be much higher.
3. Develop emotional intelligence
Understanding and following your desires, evaluating reality, showing empathy, building relationships with other people based on emotional closeness, being flexible, setting goals and fulfilling your potential yourself, being self-respecting and being happy are all characteristics of emotional intelligence.
Agree that developing them outside the school is somewhat easier and more interesting. This is not a substitute for any lessons and tutorials. Let your children receive and relive it. We will be honest, they have practically no other time of the year for this.
For a better understanding, dear adults, look at your life and say: how much do emotions affect your life, how important are they for you? If you recall your favorite “utility”, then even at work and in business, those who know how to like, intuitively feel other people, understand and manage emotions, and empathize are more successful. And it’s just impossible to create a healthy family without this.
It turns out that it is the time of the summer holidays that is largely determining and “responsible” for whether our children will be happy. Oh how it turns out!
4. Truly rest
It is in free swimming that ideas and desires are often born, and without them there are no actions and accomplishments. “Yeah, dreamers are born. If they were doing something useful ... So they just wallow on the couch or are fooling around! ”Some responsible parent will say. I admit, I too was sometimes and am the same parent.
On the other hand, what is surprising? We do this too when we get bored. The body needs to relax, move away from stress. If your child has been lying around for too long, imagine how hard it was for him.
Yes, it’s hard (at least psychologically). Do not create the same mental discomfort to him during the rest. Otherwise, he will not rest, and all this can flow into chronic fatigue and even depression.
True, lounging at home on the couch or on the sand by the sea - these are two big differences, as they say
If there is no way to go far to the sea, then a trip to the forest or a trip to the village to the grandmother is much easier to organize. Here we smoothly move on to the other opportunity and responsibilities of the parents.
5. Become healthier
“The sun, air and water are our best friends!” - there are still people who remember this little phrase of the Soviet era. The slogans are long gone, but the meaning remains: physical and mental health is best restored in nature.
The following are usually attached to nature:
- rest from the hustle and bustle,
- free regime of the day (“sleep as you want,” my grandmother first told me when I came to her for the summer),
- change of “picture” and people (you get tired of the same people, no matter how good they are),
- games and increased physical activity,
- contemplation and pacification (largely because it owes nothing to anyone),
- new impressions.
There is no alternative. The only duty of parents on vacation is to provide the very possibility of a good rest for their children. But the children in the summer owe us nothing.
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