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The article is subjective and expresses the personal opinion of the author.
When parents come across a real school, then they face a very difficult choice. It is a matter of telling the child “the whole truth” about the school, and enabling himself and him to make adequate decisions. The main question: when and in what form to say it, and not to say whether at all.
Let's be honest, the choice for maneuver is quite small and all decisions are far from ideal. And perhaps the best of them is psychologically the most difficult. Because adequate decisions can be both conflicting.
On the one hand, the Program (capitalized exclusively), strict (omnipotent, result-oriented, indifferent - choose for yourself) Mary Ivanna, the unthinkable volume of homework and looming ahead of the USE - as the only pass to a prosperous life. In addition, there is still harsh pressure from all sides of your child, which can turn him into a seasoned fighter, “a slaughtered creature” or an uncontrollable “negal”.
On the other hand, the misunderstood understanding that it is almost impossible to “read-learn” it, and most importantly, almost no one except the “school system” needs it. What is the main thing that is needed in life is not taught at school.
That morals, which, as a rule, prevail at or near school, can be very far from the desired, or even simply safe
And this is all that should adjust the basic goals for school. Safety: live to see the release, even better - get to the finish line as a normal person. And it’s quite impressive: to get motivated for development. Notice, not a word about “knowledge” here. Why? And therefore.
How long is it possible to maintain motivation while understanding the unnecessaryness of many (if not most) educational tasks? Or their insignificance in comparison with real challenges: here and now. Here you exclaim - the author twitches! How is it, "insignificant"? ..
Yes so - if we are talking about real life! You can, of course, refer to your own experience: “We taught all this, and nothing is smarter than the current generation!” But you can only polemize with your peers.
The school is now uncompetitive in almost all respects. This clearly affects the desire to learn from many representatives of the new generation. Well, admit it - the students do not want to learn IT, the groans of teachers complaining about this situation are across the country.
I will not list here everything that “is not taught at school,” now we are only talking about choice.
When and how do you intend to explain to your child that ...
All people are prone to emotions and can be aggressive and dangerous. Even the “first teacher of mine” may be mistaken that it is not always necessary to obey her. Yes - sometimes you just don’t have to obey! In my experience there was a glaring case when a teacher basically didn’t let the baby go to the toilet during the lesson, and he, sorry, “put on his pants” in the classroom, and she had nothing for it.
The world is generally unfair, and even the headmaster (not to mention some classmate bandits).
Someone will always strive to limit the freedom of a young man - whether it be a school, classmates, a head or authority. The right to own decisions will always have to be defended.
Yes, yes, let’s admit, in our public mentality, “the right to one’s own decision” is rarely found
Wherever you are in order to achieve something, you have to go through difficulties and overcomes everywhere. Often you need to do your job just gritting your teeth.
And that advice-order “This should not be done like this” is usually a stranger and not a choice for you (I, of course, are not talking about behavior dangerous to others). And the adviser-commander, in fact, must be “sent” to go his own way. Because a school is not an army (and certainly not a prison).
1. When, honestly, are you going to explain this to your child? Directly and without muddy allegories, so that he can make his own decisions.
- In the sandbox, when the children begin to take away toys from each other, and one of the mothers unjustly intervenes, protecting her?
- In the kindergarten, when the teacher rigidly “builds” the kids, where and how to play, what to do and when - and all according to her command?
- In elementary school, allowing not to do homework for a reason ...? Yes, however, what difference does it make?
- In the teenage "transition" period, when hormones are naughty, and the voice breaks, but are there enough problems with "behavior"?
- Or is it already closer to passing the decisive tests - the USE, when the fundamental foundations of the personality, by and large, have already developed?
2. When will you push your child not to do endless “learning tasks”, but to make real ones instead?
3. When will you tell your child that morning sleep for a seven-year-old baby is more valuable than being late for lessons? And without justification, that "otherwise the head does not understand at all" ...
4. What is more beneficial to do with a birdhouse in the evening than to learn a paragraph about stamens pestles?
5. What is more important to feed an abandoned kitten than an essay about Mumu and Gerasim?
6. What is an evening run to the horizontal bars more beneficial for the health of constant sitting at homework?
7. What is an ad on the sale of a bicycle from which a teenager grew up, more valuable than the chapter on the global economy?
8. What does Romm's documentary film “Ordinary Fascism” bring “main thoughts” more clearly than a textbook and slogans about patriotism?
9. What to calculate the family budget and to distribute, how to spend pocket (or better - earned on vacation) money, more important than the solved integrals?
Time is the main and, unfortunately, non-renewable resource of man. Either you spend it on one or the other. The choice is yours, not the school. I hope that wise teachers will be sympathetic to your choice.
Do you think I am calling you to battle “with the system”? Not at all! Everyone knows how such battles end with us. Rather, teach your children the realism and indifference necessary in our country.
Perhaps the most reasonable way is to take the position of an experienced person and explain to the child that "everyone has nerves" and "who doesn’t happen to" ... But you need to be able to protect yourself.
That everywhere there are rules and sometimes you have to adapt to them, if possible without losing dignity and health.
That "you shouldn’t get into the bottle" and "time will put everything in its place", and now ... Well, yes, you have to do it.
Reasonable, balanced position based on reality - perhaps even the best for "survival". However, if your child will be somewhat oppressed by such a "reality", then you may have to go to plan "B".
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