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In addition to classes, teachers, first friends and funny stories, everyone had something else at school that made it truly unforgettable. First love. When this happens, no one cares about lessons and assignments. And here the question arises: is the school ready for the love stories of schoolchildren?
I must admit right away that I don’t have sacred knowledge of how this “problem” is being solved at school (we have any “question” - a “problem”, even as joyful as love). But the topic is important. Because further role behavior between growing boys and girls depends on this experience. And that means the personal happiness of millions of “former” schoolchildren.
Previously, teachers (like older and experienced comrades) turned a blind eye to something, prompted somewhere, had heartbreaking conversations, somewhere “slowed down” young lovers. That is, in general, at the very least, but they "controlled the process."
Today, the school is no longer a "school of life", but a "provider of educational services." In the official list there is no such thing as “first love of a student”
I would venture to suggest that this means something like this: “No, that means goodbye! In another place, deal with your love! ” Although old-school teachers, out of habit, can somehow participate in a good way in the fate of a young man. But this is probably the exception to the rule.
In the best case, they will probably be sent to a school psychologist. So that (God forbid!) Why nothing bad happens from these emotions is not "according to the program." And they will tell parents: “Bring your child to life!”. That is, normalize his hormonal and other balance so that he or she without distractions continues to (a) solve problems and do homework.
In general, brush it off. But on the other hand, there is no such task for a teacher - to teach love feelings. Not for this they ask the teacher, and not for that he is paid a salary. It would only have done without early pregnancy and passions with a “point of no return”.
And it is better to play it safe, that is, to prohibit love within the walls of the school in principle. And as a result, it seems to me that something important is lost. More important than learned paragraphs.
Of course, every country has its own morals. And their school traditions. Many years ago I came across the Cuba magazine with an article about this very thing at school. And how shocked I was when I found out that in the Caribbean (even in socialist Cuba), schools have a special understanding of teenage love pranks.
So much so that there are rooms in schools where students can retire “at the break”, and high school students can bring their kids to school. Maybe, of course, my memory missed something, but the attitude towards love in schools was definitely much more loyal to ours (and I do not think that the temperament of Latin Americans has changed much during this time).
Another shock for me was the interactive Nemo Museum of Science and Technology in Amsterdam. Schoolchildren are brought there to study different physical, chemical and other laws. So there on the second floor for senior classes you can find strange devices.
On two sides, the teenagers stuck their hands in them, and between them in a friendly handshake a fiery red cloth was connected. The devices themselves depicted the face of a man, and the fabric depicted the tongue. The whole composition was an imitation of a deep kiss. Walking ten meters further, I came across a room with wooden figures, dolls, connected in different poses of the Kama Sutra.
It seems that they "studied" the technique of intimate life. Shocked (the legacy of Soviet upbringing), I thought: “Is it really that they study in school? Is it really necessary to study IT at school? And if not at school, then where? ” There are no answers so far.
With sexual education, we quickly "figured out", and children can read their educational program to their parents. But with first love at school, the situation is much more complicated. Of course, we did not forget how to love, but somehow it became more and more difficult ...
So much from love problems. They began to “cross out" it everywhere: from school life, and from life in general, replacing it with less “confused" forms of interaction between boys and girls. Meanwhile, love is a tremendous value.
What this will lead to is generally clear. To a change in the concept of family (which is what happens), to the disappearance of deep emotional bonds between people. And to total loneliness. And all because the children did not live a full first love with all its sufferings. About this “big picture” is taking shape in my head.
But I would like details. Dear readers (parents, teachers, young people), please tell us in the comments how you (your children and students) went through their first love at school? How did teachers and the general environment react? How and where should “first love” be lived? How can children be helped in this situation?
P. S. Love, be loved, and let others love.
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