Well, seriously? Except for all those ironed shirts and hot meals with guaranteed sex. Of course, this isn't enough, but what would distinguish a wife from a cleaning lady paired with a mistress?
Love? How much love, if according to statistics in our country divorce ends 90% of marriages, it is assumed, "for love". In this case, it is easier to have an affair with a housekeeper and eat in the dining room than to bother with all these stamps, weddings, two rings. We started to complain about each other - just replaced the old one with a new one, and that's all.
If you look closely, then the wife is one tense. It is necessary to organize some accommodation, to carry home, to bear children, to share the throne, to watch as she becomes fatter, thinner, sleeps with an open mouth or practices brain massage.
But she also knows perfectly all his pain points. Where to press, what to do or how to say, to start a man with half a turn. And it will certainly do so if it does not get its share of care on his voluntary basis. The wife - that the child, who is ready to as code and substitute the fifth point for a flogging, just to pay attention to himself. The wife will also scratch the plate with her fork, fake the radio on the passenger seat of his car loudly or tickle the heels in the hope of reaching the person.
Does he need it?
"A man without a wife is a tree without a caterpillar," I heard from the cartoon prince of Kyiv yesterday. Maybe he is not as far from the truth as he would like.
On the one hand, as a wife, I would not like my contribution to the family to be underestimated. On the other hand, I often catch myself thinking that to clean up and introduce myself is the daily maximum for which I expect to receive lifetime dividends. And what makes me a wife, not an employee?
How easy it is to forget about the purpose of family life for routine care of stomachs, children and clean underwear. In simple terms, we get married to be happy, don't we? It is the idea of happiness together that drives us to form a couple, to marry, to let down the reasoning about maturity, consciousness, and responsibility of each side.
But gradually the natural desire to make the other a little happier is lost somewhere. The only thing left to do is to take care of what is essential: to eat, to discuss bills, to compare weekend plans, to sleep under one blanket. Probably, such relations are called stable. Only "stability" is not always synonymous with "happiness". And it is from her sometimes so you want to cry out.
Joint loans, work, crises, big and small children - all this is absorbed by weights in the legs and heads and deprives the former spontaneity, lightness, and joy. The brain imperceptibly shifts the focus from the favorite and the only one on the new growing loved ones, on the development of new roles. What about him, the man who once wanted to marry you?
If then you would show yourself in a relationship with him as now, he would still be burning with the desire to become your husband? That's what you should ask yourself in the morning, thinking about whether to make coffee for your dear wife or let him.
The feeling of happiness is made up of trifles. And if you call a woman "the main one on the plates", the one on whose shoulders is responsible for the atmosphere in the family, for the inner state of comfort of each of its members, it is impossible to cover yourself with either life, or routine, or pots, justifying their inaction in this direction.
It is not a lack of time, but a lack of understanding of the importance of these little things. As soon as there is knowledge, attention to the partner becomes a habit. Little good deeds every day. T
To scratch the back in the morning, to give a nap at the weekend, driving children away from the bed, hot coffee for breakfast, a kiss goodbye, a smile when you meet, something special for dinner, not like everyone else, to bring up your eyes only for him, listen with your mouth closed, ask for help and thank you generously, admire the usual deed, call the hero, encourage any idea, agree, write a gentle text, offer a massage, leave one, send to friends, kick out for sports, make fresh tea, treat the mandarin, hide the blanket...
Just remember that the husband was once the main man in your life, and he should be. Not for a tick, not for fear of losing, not in an effort to outdo your girlfriends, but from huge inner happiness. From an excess of love and self-esteem. With the understanding that giving, you get. With gratitude for the fact that you have the opportunity to develop in yourself the best qualities, because the husband - the mirror of his wife, and so want to look in it was pleasant.