Recently read an article about the view of parenting. I was very interested in it, and what do you say? So...:
«Already several times I followed directly lecture, a lecture, or a conversation with mr Anies Baswedan. Sometimes, there are certain figures that make us feel at home and always inspired with what is delivered, and of course how to talk. In addition to as a figure of national leaders and young scholars, I want to call him as a figure of ‘ignition optimism of the nation’. Of course all already know, the breakthrough that opened the eyes and move the conscience of the entire nation of Indonesia, Indonesia Teaching Movement initiated by him.
Yesterday, I had the opportunity to attend a talk show he, on child care! Wow, it feels like the first time and of course I will not miss out on to acquire a splash of inspiration on parenting from him. The name of Anies Baswedan closely with leadership, so the theme of sharing, he is building the leadership of the child, in the family.
The things that he said is very applicable in the school children and towards teenagers, so it really fit for me who have children the age of 9 years ;). He also said that he was not a man who can speak about parenting, but it is fortunate because his wife, Fery Farhati Ganis, is a parenting specialist, so that he can absorb knowledge-the science of parenting from his wife and apply it.
Build leadership child, means having a vision and purpose far into the future, building morality and character in a leader. Brave, honest, trustworthy, and remember all the good character that exist in a true leader. Because the character-good character is not automatically present in the child. Our challenge as parents is how to unhide it. Well, I guess we'd heard that alot, about ‘building character’. Practical examples and unthinkable from Anies Baswedan, let's get to it. Focus on the positive things. At home, the appreciation on the good things that should always be raised. This is easy to say, but the fact is the mindset we're not like that. If you see a problem, we tend to lift it, with the expectation that the child does not do it. Better see the positive side, although small, and the commentary, apresiasilah. For example, an ELEMENTARY school children who are fasting, and go home during the day with the state of tired. She said her mother want to go to fast because it is not strong. First choice: the mother is encouraged to be detained until sunset, time can not. The second option; the mother sees that the kid is honest. Instead of quietly drinking, he ‘reported’ it first on his mother that he wanted to drink. Therefore the appreciation of the honesty of the child. “I'm so happy because you're honest. Now may drink, this is the dawn of the second, so after this you can continue your fasting”. This is a expression of appreciate the character of the child of honest, small things but important. Then, instead of saying that the child is ‘clear’ of fasting, let's say ‘dawn of the second’. words void of meaning negative, means failed.
Then the Mother will tell this to Dad, and after Dad's office also commented and appreciated the honesty of the child. The child will record that to be honest is a value highly esteemed by her parents.
Tell me exemplary. There is no need of the book, figures of a certain biography. Tell me in a casual, figure, people we meet, who is close with the family, or seen the same on TV. A brief story about kindness, success, and stories of other positive in people who are close to our environment, will make the delivery more personal. Does not need to be seasoned any message, because unconsciously, the child will take inspiration by itself.
Create experiences that can help booster your confidence. This is related to freeing the child to do anything, and give confidence. Usually these experiences arise when the child is not accompanied by his parents, so the support for each of the activities out of the house, staying at his brother's house, and so on. Don't hesitate to occasionally or often invite children -who are already self - to the place of the parent activity, for example to the office. (Mr. Anies is also very supportive of the effort to create the office of the mother friendly, so if his mother has to work, small children can also be invited to the office).
The mechanism of engineering the interaction. For example with regard to the way we design a house. All the ease given to the child, such as a bathroom in the children's room, make it not interact. Create a flow of interaction which is maximum, between brother and sister or with parents.
Partnership=Supportive. In fact, the level of the absense of the husband is higher than the level of presence of the child. Important once the wife is not told and complained about the busy husband (the absence of husband) as a load. Increase the engagement of the husband/wife against the development, what happens to the child in the home. The mother always gives an update on what happened to the child so that the engagement of children high. After returning from office, I could comment and give praise to what children do on that day.
Pak Anies also give a quote that is interesting, that the parents are the educators the most important, but also the most not set up. Parents is the most important educator, but the least prepared. Therefore character education it is very important intended for parents, because parents are the main source of inspiration of the child. The child will imitate his parents».