Category "Good books" slowly but surely gaining momentum and continues to introduce useful books. Today a new review from Mary Mirzoeva, the author of the account @masha_sophie_days. The book "#SELFMAMA. Life hacks for working moms " by psychologist, teacher and writer Lyudmila Petranovskaya.
Almost every mother has to make a choice between work and children, and each finds its own balance between these two important components of their lives. That is why the book by Ludmila Petranovskoj "#SELFMAMA. Life hacks for working moms " is literally a must have for all moms.
Instead of introduction
We live in difficult times. No, we don't starve, we don't recycle, and diapers are available. But the amount of information that fills our already multitasking mothers ' heads is a little maddening. And not just the number, but the inconsistency of this very information.
Tell me who in the subscriptions peacefully coexist business pages that talk about how important learning, self-realization and conscious parents who refuse kindergarten and school, engaged with the child 24 hours a day by the best methods, and prepare a three-course dinner. And the cherry on this wonderful cake are profiles where super-conscious moms talk about their very successful business and self-development. Hard, right?
And when we, mere mortals, try to repeat this balancing act, an endless sense of guilt and self-flagellation begins. Begin all sorts of questions to the most itself.
How to realize yourself with a small child in your arms?
How not to lose the child and the connection with him, while engaged in self-realization?
Do I qualify for a career if I have a child?
As and on the Christmas tree going, and one thing place not to rip off?
And in this wonderful book there are answers to all questions. Not wonderful answers, but true answers.
About the book
The author talks in great detail about all aspects of the concept of "working mom" — about guilt, about prioritization, about the combination of attachment theory and kindergarten. As well as various life hacks that will help to combine the upbringing of the child and career: adaptation of the child to kindergarten (valuable advice), delegation, allocation of time and resources.
And the most striking insights can be identified:
Pangs of conscience
Guilt is deeply destructive: it not only does not help to gather and correct, but also drives into even greater depression. The result is a vicious circle.
Attachment theory
Raising a happy child and a working mother are quite compatible, the main thing is not to miss the key moments. Namely
be the main adult for your child,
give maximum care to him as much as possible in the presence of work,
contain his emotions and, in General, leave the child the right to his emotions.
Sit with a child up to 4 years at home-leave it to those who have the opportunity.
Adaptation
Children are very adaptive, and to cause a real psychological trauma, you need a very child not to love and hurt. And in General, the child may well adapt to the fact that the mother goes to work for half a day, or may be busy with something.
There were also quite controversial moments, a kind of hyperbolized advice, such as" the harm of watching TV as a child has not been proven by anyone "(although at the moment there are more than 10 studies with evidence)," if you are not a mother by vocation — do not suffer, find a good nanny " (here I was just surprised). But I chalk it up to a desire to appease Hyper-responsible and neurotic moms.
In the end, the main criterion for a good book about education Lyudmila Petranovskaya considers your aftertaste from reading: if your heart is good, calm and pleasant, you want to take care of your child and love — then the book suited you. That is the aftertaste I got from reading #selfmama.
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