It has become the norm for women to speak out against men. They say there are no "normal" ones, all are infantile, indifferent and irresponsible... Men don't argue with these claims to them in particular, and in response, they are parried that women are to blame themselves, they wanted equality - get it.
And it seems that this state of affairs suits everyone: girls - they can always shift all the guilt and responsibility on men; boys - their insolvency can always be justified by the present time (this is the generation now).
Infantile relationships. All the same, there are too many infantile people (both men and women). The main reason is that people have forgotten how to create relationships, everyone is used to demanding and waiting for something for themselves, not trying to give something in return.
How are the roles in the relationship distributed? A man is the head of a family (patriarchy), a woman is the head of a family (matriarchy) and an equal relationship (partnership).
Patriarchate
Female infantilism is just over the top here. Practically everyone is sure that the certain prince on white BMW should arrive, guess and execute all its desires and whims, to solve all its problems. And she, as "true lady" will be all in white, to sit and clap innocently eyes.
And it's not clear where the idea of "everybody owes me" came from in the girl's fantasies? When and who inspired them this idea? A man "should" only because she is so beautiful, gentle, tender and obedient.
Infantile men perceive patriarchy in their way: my task is to bring money into the house, the rest of the questions and problems do not bother me. To communicate, to spend time together, to help in the household, to consult with her or to listen to her opinion when making decisions is superfluous, it is enough that he brings money. And a woman should sit at home and please him in every possible way. Sometimes it also affects the upbringing of children. Or rather, the infantile men believe that he has already done so much for the education - attended the conception, and then, all the worries about education, the woman should decide for herself.
A man in such a relationship satisfies his ego at the expense of the woman, the woman receives full material support, and also unconditional obedience and dependence.
Patriarchy
It's all the same in this relationship, but on the contrary. A man has everything, and he is not responsible for anything. He can "look for himself" all his life, and she will work on several jobs to feed the family. But at the same time, she satisfies her own and gets control and power over the man. Someone likes this kind of relationship.
Partnership
In infantile relations, equality is about the distribution of responsibilities. Partnerships are accepted by those who do not wish to take responsibility for decision-making or creating relationships. Since we are partners, it means that we are both to blame, especially you.
Infantile relationshipsInfantile relationships, friendship, respect, trust, and compromise are not addressed in such couples. This immature version of the partnership pursues the desire to prove to the partner who is "better" and who is "right". This kind of "pulling the blanket" on its side. At the same time, all the means are good, especially allowed to hit the sickest person and finish off when the "loved one" and so bad.
All of these relationships lack the main thing - the desire to cooperate, focus on common goals and go to the intended goal together. There is no respect here, which means there is no trust. But there is a great reluctance to solve problems and issues.
The first place is given to the "I", but not to the "We". I bring money - you do everything else, I was born a woman - so you owe me for life. Hence the endless grudges, quarrels, scandals and the desire to "remake" the partner for himself.
Any system of relations is the basis. And then you build your relationship based on your characteristics. They are individuals. They can't be "squeezed" into certain frames. Rules in your relationship you invent yourself and change them, if necessary. But this is possible only between mature partners, ready to take responsibility for each other.
For infantile people, it's all too complicated and confusing. Infantile people are adults who have not yet realized that childhood is far behind them.
