The rules of life on the net
Intelligence in combat
So you've become a member of some kind of Internet community. Before you enter into discussions, it's a good idea to take a closer look and see who you're dealing with. Let's assume you have registered for a forum on parent-child relationships. The fact that all the participants have at least one child does not mean that they are all soul mates. It may be the place where mothers who advocate for early development, or supporters of a particular pedagogical system, or who have children with special needs, communicate. Read the messages from the old-timers, try to feel the general atmosphere - and then join the ranks of like-minded people.
Are you sure you have found the right place and you have something to say? Great, so it's time to make a statement. Just pay attention to the style of messages. Do not write too long messages, do not allow ambiguities (the virtual interlocutor does not see the expression of your face, mimics, gestures, does not feel intonation) and try to avoid categorical: the right of the last word still needs to be earned.
Explain yourself competently.
On the Web a welcomed easy, colloquial manner, but no one canceled the spelling. Yes, there are forums (mainly youth), where it is customary to write with deliberate mistakes ("I laik", for example), without punctuation marks and capital letters. But this style has not taken root everywhere. So if you doubt it, it's better to open the dictionary again - the good news is you're not on the test.
Smile!
Internet communication is not only information exchange. To make posts more alive, use smileys. Just be careful: they can be treated differently. Yes, a smiling face is always positive. But here, for example, winking is another thing. For example, in the question "How are things ;-) ?" it means a friendly location. And in the line "Are you sure ;-)? And there is no need to abuse the symbols: an excessive number of smileys is typical only for children's chat rooms.
To intonate the message, use fonts: the word you want to emphasize emotionally can be highlighted in bold or italics. If the resource does not support this feature, follow the old-fashioned way: write the word in the discharge, i.e. making spaces: "This is the kind of book I'm writing! But don't get carried away with capital letters, otherwise, you risk becoming an emotionally unstable character: such messages are always perceived as a scream. And then explain that you only wanted to attract attention, and did not boil with indignation.
Operation Provocative
We have already talked about the fact that the Internet is not a branch of a city landfill, where you can quarrel with words and swear words. But it is important not only to behave decently but also to be able to react to inadequate messages from other users. When you are frankly rude, it is easy to ignore a rude man. It is unpleasant, of course, but to maintain contact with such a person is more expensive to itself. Other business - network provocateurs, or flammers (from English flame out - "to flare up"). Their skeptical remarks ("Really?", "Do it!") have one goal: to lead a person to emotions, to provoke conflict. They can be quite polite, not formally breaking any rules - but their subversive activities are obvious.
Part of the use of flammers is even useful: they prevent the community from souring, enliven the atmosphere, and intrigue. However, such games are good in moderation: if a thematic forum turns a conversation into a continuous exchange of "courtesies", the very meaning of the resource is lost. Moderators, of course, monitor the level of the flame and frank provocateurs sift out. In this case, often hold a couple of home skeptics, who from time to time arrange a mini-revolution. Regulars get used to them and soon stop reacting to all sorts of attacks. But beginners fall for this fishing rod - they get hot, trying to defend their point of view. But in the end, they understand that they have wasted their time and nerves, and besides, they showed themselves not from the best side.
What is written with a pen...
And especially - typed on the keyboard, will remain on the Web forever. At least, for a long time. So before you perpetuate your messages, think: are they worth it? Will it then be painfully painful and embarrassing? Of course, it is easy to disappear on the Internet and then revive under a new nickname, with a new history and e-mail address. But where is the guarantee that you have not been declassified?
You have to be especially careful when visiting sites where people register under their names, post real photos, share contact information - hoping to find old acquaintances. All this is very nice and touching, but are you sure that only childhood friends will visit your page? Your mother-in-law, boss, and potential employer can also come to visit. And here you dance with a bottle of port in the camp of Komsomol asset...
In general, friends, if you don't want to hurt yourself, don't be overly honest. And most importantly, remember that Internet communication is only a means of communication, such as a fax or phone, and a real relationship
