Back in the early nineties, for most of us, the Internet was terra incognita - only programmers and the young and the advanced were sneaking into cyberspace. But after ten years, the World Wide Web has become a truly global network: it has attracted absolutely everyone - children and their parents, scientists and housewives, retirees and students. And more and more often a person comes to the Internet not, for information, but first of all for communication.
Rules of life in the network. We start to live in the network. We meet, be friends, fall in love, sometimes even get married. Certainly, it is a virtual life, but here problems which we face, communicating through the Internet, are real. Hurts, misunderstandings, conflicts - and often literally on a flat surface.
The world is fake
What kind of trouble could that be? After all, communication on the Web is much easier and more comfortable. Even the only inconvenience - low speed - we have long and successfully overcome. Users have learned to print quickly, and ISPs have learned to send messages. The network presents us with endless possibilities. You can communicate with a person with whom you are separated by thousands of kilometers. You can go online when it's convenient, not when circumstances force you to do so. You can think a hundred times before sending a message - and the meaning will be conveyed as accurately as possible.
Also, the meeting at the forum will not have to be postponed, if you look bad today, there is no time for a makeup or just lazy to clean yourself up. Nobody will know about your problems and sins if you do not wish that. You can create any image, invent any story - and it will be true. Virtual. And the main advantage of network communication, to which all its adherents appeal is security. Agree, run into a maniac on a dating site is not so terrible as to meet him in real life.
Nevertheless, the emotions that we take out of the virtual world, quite real. And, alas, not always pleasant. Why?
The downside of freedom
Rules of living online There are two extremes to which you almost one hundred percent of the problems in cyberspace are addressed. If you believe that everything is allowed on the Internet, and if you don't see the difference between real and virtual communication at all.
In the first case, a person simply "goes nuts" and starts to openly hooliganism: pouring insults to the right and left, inventing endless stories, provoking conflicts. Such behavior will not be tolerated anywhere for a long time: the provocateur will soon be pointed to his place or quietly banned (blocked access). For some, this is not a problem - the expanse of the Internet allows you to quickly find a new home. But someone sincerely will be indignant: how so? After all, the Internet is a free territory! I'm just saying what I think!
Usually, such behavior is typical for teenagers who, having felt impunity, cannot resist the temptation to "play dirty", as well as for people who are trying to solve their problems in this way, throw out a negative spill, not particularly caring about the consequences. Tip for both: You can be as bright and direct as you like, but you should always remember that you do not communicate with the computer, which, like paper, tolerate everything, but with living people.
They meet you by your clothes
Quite another case, when a person seems to be polite, and quite interesting and communicates with his peers - but the expected support and positive emotions do not get. He is not taken seriously, it is offended, does not give access to closed resources. What is the matter? Most likely, he simply did not take into account some features of communication on the Web.
Here, as well as everywhere, they meet on clothes. That's just no one sees neither your stylish costume, nor the perfect appearance, nor the seal is not a dozen intellect on the forehead. Only your nickname (pseudonym) and avatar (picture) are known. Certainly, it is possible to present and own name, but such original in the Network more than enough. So that most likely you will be offered a nickname like 'Katya 267'. Few people will like to be 267th, and the name won't be able to tell you anything about your person. And you need to create an image, don't you? So, fantasize. Who are you: Terminator, Snow White, Papa Carlo or Casanova? There can be as many options as you like - from fairytale characters to the names of spare parts. The main thing is that no matter what is remembered and fit into the general context. For example, a man who named himself Killer is unlikely to be welcomed at the forum of florists. But in the club of horrors, such a nickname is appropriate.
The same applies to the avatar. Some people like to place their photos, but beginners should not do it: how to make a virtual relationship, and the real world - small. Here you get used to it - then you can declassify yourself.
to be continued...
