One day, my work colleague told me that his wife was a girl who lived next door. And he didn't consider the other girls who lived farther than two stops from his house as potential brides. The reason was trivial, and he just didn't want to waste time on the girl's long walk home. A long-distance can be a hindrance to love.
The pros and cons of a distant relationship. The concept of a distant relationship does not suit everyone. Let's consider the disadvantages of such a relationship when your partner lives at a distance of more than a hundred kilometers.
1. Financial question. To meet your loved one, you have to spend money on a train, plane, car or other public transport. And if your income does not allow you to visit your partner often? You only have two options: forget and look for someone in your area or start earning more.
2. To meet, you need to coordinate your plans and adjust to each other. And this can not always be comfortable for you.
3. Distance relationships mean that you often have to be apart, away from each other. On the one hand, you're in a relationship, and on the other hand, life goes on alone. When you are in dire need of a loved one, he or she is not there for you. This is depressing and depressing.
4. It is a question of trust. How long can you trust a partner who is alone, away from you, and you don't always know where and with whom he or she is at the moment? There are no ideal people, and in moments of loneliness, people can get carried away by someone close.
5. If you have passed the test of love at a distance and started to live together, then you may be disappointed by your life together. You will suddenly realize that living together is different from the illusions in which you lived, communicating at a distance. Now you will have to take part in daily rituals: "Where are my car keys?" or "I asked you to close the lid of the toilet", etc. You may be able to avoid this, but it's not a fact. You're used to living together but at a distance, and now you have to live together under the same roof.
Advantages and disadvantages of relationships at a distance Many of the above causes are frightening and so people avoid relationships at a distance. It is much more enjoyable for two to spend the evening together than for one. Still, there are pluses in such a relationship too.
1. The myth that feelings can't stand the distance isn't substantiated and proved by anything. Being together can destroy feelings more quickly. Strong alliances do not become strong because of the great love, they are strong because of the common business, interests, mortgages, the influence of relatives or love for their children.
2. Being apart, you have the opportunity to experience a range of feelings: sadness, boredom, yearning, worry, etc. So our life becomes more sated. Now everything is so practical, and any experience is too big a luxury. But it is in anticipation of the meeting that you experience a great emotional rise, and your feelings flare up with new strength.
3. With the development of modern technology, the relationship at a distance becomes closer. You can always Skype, send each other instant messages, share photos.
4. No need to do daily styling, manicure, pedicure, waxing and look perfect at any time. At home, you can relax and wear your old favorite bathrobe or sport pants with your knees stretched out, because no one will see it. And no one will "blow your mind" about unused garbage or cooked during dinner.
5. Each meeting, after a long separation, will be for you a real holiday, a firework of feelings.
Any relationship contains a powerful energy. There is a unity of two opposites, a unity of male and female. We learn to live a new life, rebuild ourselves and rebuild our lives, and when we lose half of this energy (partner leaves), everything instantly collapses.
In order not to experience such emotional shocks at the moment of separation, do not give all of yourself to another person, do not project on him your emotional state, take care of him, without waiting for reciprocity. True Love - we certainly love you without expecting anything in return.
Relationships at a distance are suitable for those who value freedom and independence. For such people, distance is an incentive in life for new heights and achievements. And if you are afraid of loneliness and you feel more comfortable falling asleep every night on someone's shoulder, then the distance in love is not for you.
