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Today we will try to figure out how we can make our family happy. Let's consider what to do based on the rules of a happy family, which I want to share with you today.
Everyone wants to be happy after the wedding. But not everybody can save their family. All unhappy unions are unhappy in different ways, but strong families have common features. Let's consider the basic rules of successful marriages, which will allow you to make the family happy and keep the relationship for a long time.
1. The foundation of a happy family is love
As trivial as it may sound, the strongest families are those built on love. And not on that passion and emotions which were in the first months, but on deep inner feeling, on mutual interest and attraction.
Couples who have been meeting for several years before the official registration of the marriage have time to check their feelings and in the future, it is much easier for them to keep the relationship in the family.
Conclusion: Check your relationship before your wedding, make sure that besides passion there is also love in it.
2. Talk about your love
Even at the very beginning of a relationship, when emotions overflow, I want to hear the cherished words "I love you! Moreover, people need confirmation of love when the relationship has calmed down and moved into a more even family phase.
Tell your loved ones about your love, express it not only with words but also with deeds: kiss, hug, show tenderness, spoil - they need to know that they are loved. In this way, your family will always be filled with love and mutual attraction.
Conclusion: Do not keep your feelings in yourself, express them, show your love to your loved ones.
3. Respect each other's freedom
No matter how good you are together, everyone wants and needs to be alone from time to time, communicating with other people or doing their own thing. It can even be enough to do something alone sometimes: read, walk, have different hobbies. During the short separation, people have time to miss their loved one a little more and when they meet a relationship they are filled with an additional desire. Therefore, members of strong families usually give each other enough free time to get back together and discuss what has accumulated during the day with interest.
You can even live in separate rooms and visit each other - in addition to the extra feeling of freedom and mutual respect, this will also bring some freshness to the relationship, as in the period before the wedding.
Conclusion: Respect each other's freedom, give everyone enough time to be alone or to do their own thing to be bored.
4. Respect the individuality of each
An ideal family does not try to educate each other, but rather tries to see and develop the unique qualities of each family member. You need to learn to accept everyone as they are, to support them - then the person will be able to realize their individuality in full. It is possible to bring up only children under 14 years old. After this age, the person has already formed a character, and there is nothing you can do about it. And that, upbringing is not reworking, but imparting additional qualities and skills necessary for survival and life in society.
Conclusion: Do not try to remake people, accept them, respect the individuality of each family member, and help to develop it.
5. Create trust
Distrust is a fear of deception. There is no room for doubt, suspicion and jealousy in a strong marriage. A family cannot be based on negative emotions and expectations. First of all, it puts at a disadvantage the one who does not trust his loved ones, and in the second, destroys any relationship.
If there are unclear moments, be sure to listen to the thoughts of relatives without unwarranted criticism, hear their arguments and take them for the truth - because they are the closest to you people. And even in case of reasonable suspicions, before making any decisions or even just making complaints, first learn the point of view of a loved one, talking to him frankly. In this case, you will build a strong family based on trust.
Conclusion: Learn to trust your loved ones, and if in doubt, first give them a chance to explain themselves.
6. Identify common goals and interests
A common vision of the future of the family is very important for its preservation. In a long-term relationship, people don't look at each other, they look in the same direction. Therefore, if you do not yet have commonly agreed goals, if you have not yet agreed on how you see the immediate and further development of your family, you should do it as soon as possible. Otherwise, there is a risk of parting because of misunderstanding or unfulfilled expectations from your partner. It is also very important to work together and hobbies. You can take care of children, hobbies and even business - the main thing is that you do it together and with pleasure. Such activities bring together, create many reasons for communication and leave a lot of pleasant impressions that fill the life of the family happiness.
Conclusion: Plan your family's future together, decide on immediate and plans, and find common hobbies or things to do.
7. Talking about everything
The proverb "Silence is gold" isn't exactly about a happy family. Psychologists strongly recommend not to be silent during a quarrel. It is better to express your feelings directly by telling about them. Of course, it is better to do it after you have cooled down, or at least try to express yourself without too much emotion.
It is important not to merge the negative with the children. Ideally, children talk more about their mother's experiences, and she tells her husband about them. Together, parents discuss the problem and decide how to help the child. In this case, peace will reign in the family.
And in general, it has long been known that the more couples talk on different topics, the stronger their relationship.
Conclusion: communicate with each other on any topic, take an interest in the life and opinion of family members, quietly discuss pleasant and unpleasant things, and do not keep it to yourself.
To be continued in the next part " Happy family rules (Part 2)"