Classification of conflicts based on unmet needs of spouses: .
1.Conflicts, quarrels arising on the basis of the unmet need for the value and significance of one's self, violation of the dignity of the other partner, his disrespectful and disrespectful attitude.
2.Conflicts, quarrels, mental tension based on the unmet sexual needs of one or both spouses. Mental tension, depression, conflict, quarrels due to the unmet need of one or both spouses for positive emotions: lack of affection, care, attention, understanding of humor, gifts.
3. Conflicts, quarrels related to one spouse's addiction to alcohol, gambling and other hypertrophied needs, leading to wasteful and inefficient and sometimes useless family spending. Financial disagreements arising from exaggerated needs of one of the spouses in the distribution of the budget, family maintenance, contribution of each of the partners in the material support of the family. 4.Conflicts, quarrels, quarrels, disagreements due to the lack of satisfaction of the spouses' needs for food, clothing, domestic hotbeds, etc. 5.Conflicts over the need for mutual assistance, mutual support, cooperation in the division of labour in the family, household management, childcare. 6.
Conflicts, quarrels, quarrels based on different needs and interests in recreation and leisure, different hobbies.
The use of the category of the need for the theory of marital conflict allows us to move to motives and interests, negative and positive emotions, to the analysis of various types of depressive and other pathological conditions, neuroses, the source of which may be family troubles. Categories of stability, instability and conflict-free marriage also depend on meeting the needs of spouses, especially emotional and psychological needs.
Conflicts can be:
1. non-dangerous in terms of danger to family ties - they arise when there are objective difficulties, fatigue, irritability, and a state of "nervous breakdown"; suddenly, a conflict can quickly end. About such conflicts often say: "By morning everything will pass";
2.dangerous - disagreements arise because one of the spouses must, in the opinion of the other, to change the line of conduct, for example, in relation to relatives, to abandon some habits, to revise life's guidelines, methods of upbringing, etc., that is, the problem is posed, which requires the resolution of the dilemma: to give in or not, especially dangerous - lead to divorce
Let's focus on the motivation of this category of conflicts. The characters did not agree - the motive is "purely" psychological.
The acuteness of conflicts and their frequency, the power of emotional explosions, control over one's own behavior, and the tactics and strategy of spouses' behavior in various conflict situations depend on individual characteristics of the character
Each person chooses the ways, techniques and methods of activity, based on the peculiarities of his or her character. They also form individual behavior in the working and everyday spheres of life.
The "individual style of activity" is understood as a system of methods and ways of action, typical for a given person and purposeful to achieve a successful result. It is necessary to remember it and not to try to "re-educate", "remake" another partner, but simply to take into account or adapt to the properties of his nature, his individual style. However, some disadvantages of character (demonstrativeness, authoritarianism, indecision, etc.) can be a source of conflict situations in the family. There are traits that lead to the destruction of marriage, regardless of the partners' willingness to adapt, such as the egocentric characteristics of the spouses. Their concentration on their ego is a defect in moral development and is one of the factors destabilizing marriage life. Usually, spouses see only the selfishness of their partner, but do not notice their own. The "struggle" with others stems from a false life position, from a false understanding of moral relationships with other people. Spousal infidelity and sexual life in marriage. Treason reflects contradictions between spouses, it is the result of a variety of psychological factors. Treason is caused by disappointment in marriage life, disharmony of sexual relations.
In contrast to treason, infidelity, fidelity is a system of obligations to the marriage partner, which are regulated by moral norms and standards. It is a belief in the value and significance of the commitments made. Fidelity is often associated with loyalty and is linked to the desire of partners to strengthen their own marriages and relationships.