Have you ever been worried about the question, why do some people manage to achieve some very high goals, to fulfill some major desires?
And you only get a green traffic light or a blouse at a discount and that's it?
How is it that someone suddenly becomes a millionaire or receives a leadership position, wins a huge tender or receives an impressive bonus?
Why does someone meet the ideal partner and create a loving family?
How does it happen that a person dramatically changes his life?
What are they doing?
I also asked such a question until I myself was in the place of the very people who managed to do something worthwhile, to change the course of their fate. Looking at my life now, I understand that I probably know what it is. I finally got it.
And today I want to share my discoveries with you.
I collected some of them in my wish fulfillment book. Today you can download it for free. And even if now you relate to this with a slight share of irony in 30 days you will be amazed at the changes that have taken place >>
Well, now we continue the conversation about your desires.
We will prepare, of course, about mentality, as well as about fears and desires.
A high goal and a great desire
high goals As you can imagine, any change in a person’s life begins with awareness. When you suddenly realize that you are not happy with this or that.
Here, if you are a sane person, you set yourself a certain point, a goal, where you need to come in order to change the bad that you do not like.
And if you have already set yourself some points, directions and know exactly what you want, let's check how high these goals are.
For example, a girl writes off a list of qualities of her new partner, whom she wants to attract, and makes it very simple.
She writes that it’s enough for her to have a middle mind and let her be any profession, any interests too ...
I have a question here.
And why does she so underestimate her desires?
Why doesn’t he write that he wants him to be also interested in music, like her, that he is smarter than her (after all, such couples are more harmonious), and that the profession is such that he can devote much time to his family ...
Where do these low goals come from?
The second example, the guy wants to find a new job.
And he wonders: I work for a foreign company and get the nth amount of money.
But in fact, he is sick of this profession of accountant for a long time and every evening he enjoys watching car reviews, studying the equipment and technical specifications.
But he intends to become a seller of cars with the prospect of managing the salon, he does not even plan.
Why are we doing this with our lives? Why do not we allow ourselves to wish for more?
I think I found the answer to this question.
The whole snag is in fears.
Three Fears When Setting Goals
big dream I remember myself about 7 years ago.
Then I did the exercise, it is akin to the world map, which I already described in the article How to fulfill several desires at once.
And one of the desires was to write articles.
Now it seems natural that I write articles and I even have a blog where I publish them. But earlier for me it was something very absurd.
I still wrote this desire with fear, but I was very afraid that someone would see these notes ...
So,
Fear number 1: the opinions of others or the fear of being yourself
It seems to me that these two fears are very difficult to separate from each other.
I felt it on myself.
When they told me, ask for whatever you want, because of which you really want to live and be proud of your life, I wrote about writing and articles.
At that moment, I never wrote anything and thought that for this it was necessary to have a literary education.
After that I even found a girl on the Internet who graduated from the Faculty of Literature and asked her what this education had given her.
She then told me that she had read all Russian and foreign classics from under a stick, and nothing else. She did not become a writer. Only 5 years of torment.
I was disappointed and completely dropped my hands because I did not know how to start writing.
You probably ask, if I really wanted to write, why didn’t I just write at least something?
And here my answer is fear.
Firstly, I had to admit to everything that I want to write. And that was too scary for me. How many of you have come across this? I think many ...
I was sure that no one would take it seriously, or even laugh, I'm an ordinary girl with an average mind, what can I write there?
Secondly, it was scary to reveal your soul in the texts, because someone would read it. Recognizes my thoughts ... oh no, that was too scary.
And only later, much later, having already moved to Moscow and becoming an adult, I realized that being yourself, being an individual is fashionable and cool.
I even wrote an article about it. Be yourself - this is the secret of success.
Do you recognize such fears in yourself?
Check your goals, are they high enough?