At least once each of us in his life wondered how to get rid of loneliness?
Each of us was burdened by the thought that "I am completely alone." Concerned about what to do about it and how to fix it.
Loneliness each of us understands differently. Everyone has their own life situations. Someone may be surrounded by a large number of friends, but feel completely lonely, because, for example, no one understands him. Someone can be, literally, alone, without friends and relatives. Someone suffers from loneliness, because he does not have a partner, love.
Important! Each of us faces loneliness in our own way. And, since you are reading this article, it means that perhaps you have this problem to some extent and you, like any person, would like to solve it. There are many ways to get rid of loneliness.
How to get rid of loneliness caused by internal pain?
Let's look at what loneliness is and, in fact, does it bring us misfortune in itself, or is there something else hidden?
Loneliness is a very subjective state.
Remember hermits and monks. In fact, they are single, they live alone with themselves, without friends and relatives, without a huge flow of people around. And it does not bring them any suffering. They are happy, they do not feel lonely, because they are constantly with God and because of this they are in unity with the whole world and in harmony with themselves.
This is proof that you can stay in complete solitude and not feel lonely. And so if you feel bad alone with yourself, then inside you there is some kind of problem of a different kind ...
Another situation is when a person has a family, friends, children, parents, colleagues, neighbors, he also lives in a large city, where he meets hundreds and thousands of people every day. But even under such conditions, he may feel lonely.
Perhaps it seems that this is because there is no soulmate with whom one could talk, get approval or praise, or at least speak out so that you are heard and understood.
I made these two comparisons only because you saw that the problems of loneliness do not depend on external factors. It doesn't matter how many people are around you. You feel bad and sad in loneliness just because you have some kind of internal pain or problem.
When a person is faced with loneliness, if he is in a deficit of attention and communication, he begins to delve into himself, and then all the bad things that are hidden inside come out.
If there are internal problems, a person becomes psychologically ill and wants to immediately run away from this. It’s hard for any person to meet with himself, look into the eyes of his soul, his heart.
How to deal with internal problems?
loneliness with people
I know cases when people tried to struggle with problems in themselves and as a way out of this situation they decided to buy a vacation ticket, or some material thing that, in their opinion, would help them feel better.
Yes, relaxing at sea will help you. But only for a while.
You know, it's like having an unpleasant odor in an apartment. You can spray with perfume or air freshener. This will help you not feel an unpleasant odor for a couple of hours. But then what? The smell will return because its cause has not been eliminated.
The same thing here, you will feel better during and after the rest, but the internal causes of your pain will not go anywhere. Therefore, it is necessary to work with them.
The first thing that I consider it necessary to advise you if you are familiar with the problem of loneliness is to seek the advice of a professional psychologist.
It is necessary to get the help of a specialist and not regret the money for it. Because psychological health is much more important than all material things, it is more important than a trip to rest. Rest will help only for a while, rest will not solve internal problems, it will be done easily by a professional psychologist. If you save up money on vacation to solve the problem of loneliness, then it is better to give this money to a good psychologist. It will help to get rid of the internal clamps and problems that cause this pain.
Perhaps your inner pain is caused by some kind of attachment or fear, a psychologist will help you with all this.
You need to observe yourself, your inner world. Through the light of awareness, you can transform your pain.
I understand that many of you do not know what the light of awareness is, if you have not done meditation before. Very often people who come to my marathon for the fulfillment of a desire for the first time encounter meditations, practice silence of the mind, and soon things will start to happen to them.
And it is possible that you are more advanced and have already encountered this, you know what the moment is here and now.