I want to be happy with this magic phrase I've heard many times from different people. Everyone wants happiness, but nobody on the planet is responsible for your happiness.
Neither Mom, nor Dad, nor spouse, nor partner or partner, nor boyfriend or girlfriend, nor children, nor colleagues, nor friends. You and only you," says the famous American journalist Regina Brett.
All you have to do is decide to be happy. To focus your efforts on creating the kind of life you want. Try to start right now: realize what makes you happy, and choose it every day.
Men and women would be much happier if they read their own thoughts, fulfilled their own desires and satisfied their needs.
So, all women know that men can't read minds, but still push their husbands, boys, lovers to try to make this impossible feat.
Take Valentine's Day - a day full of the most violent disappointments (after New Year's Eve, of course). How many women know exactly what they want, but do not give the slightest hint to their loved ones? You want a box of chocolate and it gives you edible underwear. You want tickets to the theatre - he takes you to basketball. You want candlelight dinner, he brings home fast food.
Why didn't I just say what I wanted? Because when I was getting the courage to talk about my desires, and then I didn't get anything, I felt devastated.
To avoid the feeling of rejection, I kept my desires a secret. If you don't, there's always a chance you'll get what you want. Women often play such a strange intellectual game and almost always lose.
I want happiness
I found out the secret. When someone wonders what you want, instead of denying that you have desires, instead of hiding your dream for fear that you won't get it, you're afraid to say the word I want to, try this: ask yourself what will make you happy.
Do not stop at one or two answers. Think about three options, each of which you like, and offer them. Your loved one will have a choice, and you will win anyway.
When it comes to dating, work, marriage, parenting and any other relationship in which you are a member, you can take your happiness into your own hands in the same way, because no one but you can make you happy.
When you feel that you can't get rid of fear, despondency, feelings of evil fate, sadness or self-pity, just stop and ask yourself: "Do you want to be happy?
The answer cannot be "Yes, but..."
There's no "but."
I want happiness.
It's up to you to choose what you need to be happy right here and now. When you feel like you're in a mood that you don't want to be in, ask yourself: "What would a happy man do now? Practice being happy. Act like you're happy.
Make happiness part of your daily and weekly routine. Take your time every week to pamper yourself. Set aside an hour for yourself on your calendar. Call it the hour of beauty. An hour of pleasant excitement. An hour of peace.
Imagine the perfect day and live it. Dress up in your favorite. Take a nap. Don't be up late. Eat pizza for breakfast. Develop the day of your dreams - only yours.
Create your own list:
- Go for a massage. On a pedicure. Take a walk! Each toenail on your feet is painted with its own shade of red. Buy yourself new underwear. Throw out your holey panties. You deserve better.
- Call your friends and have a "come as is" party. Ask everyone to bring chocolate as an entrance ticket.
- Create a sanctuary in your home, a personal snack where you can pray, dream and create. Move the chair to the window. Make an ikebana with fern leaves or make a circle of violets. Put your favorite books in the spotlight.
- Curl up in a ball and read sonnets about love.
- Take a foam bath. Or hot, with floating candles. Cut fresh flowers and put them on the bedside table.
- Put your funny string on. Look at the position comedies, buy comic books.
- Take yourself out on a date. Plan an entire evening alone with yourself. Order your favorite wine, snack, main course and dessert. When the waiter asks: "Are you alone/one? - Answer: "Yes!" with jubilation, not with shame.
- Listen to the music that you liked in high school. Record a CD of your favorite songs. Call it "The Soundtrack to My Life".
- Remember and record twenty of the most wonderful events that have happened to you. Then list the twenty events you dream of, choose one and do something to help him come true.
- Write yourself a letter from yourself as a six-year-old. What would the child you used to say to you as an adult?
- Take a thick colored chalk and write with your left hand (and if you are left-handed, then right).
- Move the furniture in the bedroom. Let more sun and moonlight penetrate it. Hang it in the corner of the garland.
- Listen to your own conversations with yourself. If they are unpleasant, change them. Write a new scenario.
- Collect all the unattached photos, put them in an album, or maybe make a collage with the faces of the people who love you the most.
Take care of your desires and needs and don't place desperate hopes on others.