If you ask any adult, whether he faced at work with the boss-tyrant, then everyone will surely remember several situations when arbitrariness or rudeness of the head spoiled the blood of subordinates.
How to recognize a tyrant and communicate effectively with him, read this article.
Any, at first glance, the most inadequate behavior always has a reason, and not even one. If You understand why Your boss "tears and rushes", It will be much easier to react to the antics of the boss-tyrant carefully and calmly.
Here are the 7 most common reasons:
1. Ignorance, incompetence of the head: he just does not know how to communicate constructively in conflict situations;
2. Self-doubt: wanting to hide it from employees, the boss-rude disguises uncertainty under aggression. (He, poor fellow, thinks it's a strong position);
3. Low self-esteem encourages the boss to assert himself at the expense of subordinates, insult, devalue their merits, relish miscalculations, etc.;
4. Irascibility, anger as a property of character: such a leader is a tyrant against his will; shouting and swearing for him is a way to " let off steam»;
5. Distrust, the desire to control everything: these bosses are not rude, but constantly interfere in the work of specialists, harassing subordinates excessive control, constant nagging;
6. Excessive self-confidence, selfishness: such a chief behaves like a tyrant, bombarding employees with his valuable instructions, actively imposing his point of view;
7. Tyranny as a pathological personality trait. This-chief of-tyrant "the classic." Such will humiliate subordinates sake of own pleasure, deliberately and purposefully.
Maybe he's sick, maybe he's not happy. Or maybe-just ham
Understand the reason for the aggressiveness of the boss is to feel confident and protect your psyche from the destructive effects of negative emotions. If You are not offended or upset, it will be easier for you to choose the best strategy of behavior in relation to the aggressive behavior of the Manager. If negative emotions seize You at each communication with the chief, then You should ask for the help to the skilled psychologist and together with it to find a way out of a vicious circle.
Head-tyrant: you can not fight to cooperate
Where to put a comma in this phrase, you decide. And this decision depends on many factors: on Your character and relations with the head, on how much you value your work, and on the deserving of superiors ' censures. Agree, there is also such: the head, in fact, is right, but clearly went too far with the volume and tone of statements.
There are FIVE main strategies of behavior in any conflict situations. Having mastered them, You will be able to competently and confidently communicate with the boss-tyrant including interaction with the boss - tyrant.
Rivalry or struggle: this way of interacting with the Manager rarely produces positive results. Soon there will be an article in which all five strategies will be described in detail in terms of their effectiveness in dealing with the boss-tyrant.
Avoidance or evasion is appropriate if the subject of the dispute with the boss is not very important to You, or you know that the boss will soon "cool down" and be ready for a constructive dialogue.
Adaptation, as an option, can be an intermediate solution if it comes to minor issues in which you are not competent enough. As the only strategy communication with boss - tyrant adjustment unacceptably.
Compromise: a good way to solve problems, provided that the head is also willing to make concessions. Success requires flexibility, the ability to bargain and take into account the interests of the opposite party.
Cooperation: the most desirable, but also the most difficult way to resolve problematic situations. It requires the employee to have self-confidence, plus developed communication skills. And from the chief-ability to objectively look at the current state of Affairs. This is not easy, because it looks like the recognition of the head of his wrong.